chronic-genderbender:

“Those poor boys”

“She deserves to be punished too.”

“I’m not saying I support rape, but-“

“Sorry to say - she deserved it.”

“She put herself in harm’s way”

“But if she was fingered, then that’s not rape.”

“She ruined their lives.”

lizzybell27:

“Teachers are often unaware of the gender distribution of talk in their classrooms. They usually consider that they give equal amounts of attention to girls and boys, and it is only when they make a tape recording that they realize that boys are dominating the interactions.Dale Spender, an Australian feminist who has been a strong advocate of female rights in this area, noted that teachers who tried to restore the balance by deliberately ‘favouring’ the girls were astounded to find that despite their efforts they continued to devote more time to the boys in their classrooms. Another study reported that a male science teacher who managed to create an atmosphere in which girls and boys contributed more equally to discussion felt that he was devoting 90 per cent of his attention to the girls. And so did his male pupils. They complained vociferously that the girls were getting too much talking time.In other public contexts, too, such as seminars and debates, when women and men are deliberately given an equal amount of the highly valued talking time, there is often a perception that they are getting more than their fair share. Dale Spender explains this as follows:The talkativeness of women has been gauged in comparison not with men but with silence. Women have not been judged on the grounds of whether they talk more than men, but of whether they talk more than silent women.In other words, if women talk at all, this may be perceived as ‘too much’ by men who expect them to provide a silent, decorative background in many social contexts. This may sound outrageous, but think about how you react when precocious children dominate the talk at an adult party. As women begin to make inroads into formerly ‘male’ domains such as business and professional contexts, we should not be surprised to find that their contributions are not always perceived positively or even accurately.”

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[x] (via neighborly)

As a teacher, I give girls what I hope is a lot of attention.  I don’t know if I give girls their fair share, but I aspire to, especially after noticing that boys are willing to use their greater share of teachers’ attention to get girls who they feel aren’t being quiet and docile enough punished.  I have therefore acquired a reputation for “caring more about the girls.”  This has had two marked results: Some straight boys have gotten more hostile toward me, and most girls have gotten more confident around me.  This makes me think I’m doing something right.

Longer thoughts on how this phenomenon relates to sexual harassment in classrooms, if you’re interested: The girls figured out I won’t report them if they hit boys who are sexually harassing them, I’ll only report the boys.  This led to an increase in how often girls got the last word and boys got smacked in my classes, and, also, to a DECREASE IN HOW OFTEN GIRLS GOT SEXUALLY HARASSED.  The sexual harassers seem to have been depending on the sort of “equal blame” and “retaliation is never warranted” and “don’t hurt others’ feelings” perspectives so many schools try to instill in kids; the sexual harassers were usually the ones bringing me into the situation by saying, “Miss, she hit me!  You should write her up!”  Once they figured out I was only ever going to respond, “If you don’t treat girls like that, they won’t hit you,” the girls got more confident and the sexual harassers largely shut the fuck up.

In schools, fighting against sexual harassment is often punished exactly the same as, or more severely than, sexual harassment — a lot of discipline codes make no distinction between violence and violence in self-defence, and violence is ALWAYS the highest level of disciplinary infraction, whereas verbal sexual harassment rarely is.  Sexual harassers, at least in the schools I’ve been in, rely heavily on GETTING GIRLS IN TROUBLE WITH HIGHER AUTHORITIES as a strategy of harassment — creating an external punishment that penalises girls for and therefore discourages girls from fighting back.  Sexual harassers are willing to use their greater share of floorspace to ask to get girls who won’t date them punished.  By and large, teachers do punish those girls when they swear or hit.  Schools condition girls to ignore sexual harassment by punishing them when they speak up or fight back instead.

Once the sexual harassers in my classes understood that girls wouldn’t be punished for rejecting them, they backed off around me.  And there started to be a flip in what conversations I get called into — girls are telling me when boys are being nasty (too loud and dominant), instead of boys telling me when girls are being uncooperative (louder and more dominant than boys think they should be).

(via torrentofbabies)

reblogging again for the wonderful commentary.

(via partysoft)

Holy crud, so glad I read this.  Reblogging for other educators.

(via eupheme-butterfly)

As a girl who would not be shut up and would not tolerate teasing or abuse from boys in my class and was several times sent to such higher authorities for it, reading this is extremely, extremely vindicating. I was lucky, though, because being a particularly bright, advanced student for those grades, they generally took my side and I never got into any severe or lasting trouble. Again ,this was luck, and shouldn’t be the rule.

(via eruditechick)

I was going to write that exact last paragraph; WOW.

(via supersandys-space)

racismschool:

The lie of the “Justice” system is that it’s there to protect white people. This is a fallacy. One that will one day, sooner rather than later, come back to haunt you. The “Justice” system is there, not to protect white people but to protect white people from being punished. (In addition to making massive profits of course) White people, both those who work to be non-racist as well as those who don’t, might take some comfort in knowing that in most cases, they don’t have to worry about the police. Often, they have no reason to think about the system at all. The part so many of you seem to be forgetting is that while some of you will read about the Prison Industrial Complex and others will absorb statistic after statistic that says Black people are unfairly targeted, given higher incarceration rates and longer sentences for the same or lessor crimes, you haven’t thought about what that means for you personally.

While your skin color may work in your favor as far as jail time goes, being a victim of white-on-white crime, is quite the opposite. 96% of all rapes are committed by white men. Yet, 80% of rape inmates are Black. This means most male rapists are walking free. Free to rape again, simply because of the color of their skin. Now, add that to the fact that most crime, is intraracial and not interracial and you have white on white homicide at 86%. White on white homicide is slightly lower than Black on Black homicide but remember, Black people are getting sent to jail these days for breathing. White people are being given less than a slap on the wrist for even vicious crimes.

If you are white, not only should you be angry that criminals with your skin tone aren’t getting punished, you should be terrified that criminals of your skin tone will find you.

seriouslyamerica:

TW: RAPE CULTURE

redplebeian:

kateordie:

Ahh, Halifax. My hometown.

A protest was held today in support of Rehtaeh Parsons, the Halifax girl who recently committed suicide after being bullied incessantly due to photos that circulated of her being raped by four boys. You’ve seen it on the news, I’m sure.

It’s a horrible tragedy, and on top of it, a counter-protest was staged today in support of the boys accused of raping her.

Not upsetting enough? Have a look at the Facebook page (Speak The Truth) set up in support of the accused rapists… By a girl.

Don’t believe in rape culture? Read the Facebook group, wherein one guy accuses Rehtaeh of being a coward who killed herself because she “made a drunken mistake.” Yeah. Because being raped is a mistake, like forgetting bus change or picking up the wrong kind of milk. Right?

Wrong. There’s a lot I could say on this topic, but look for yourself…

….

I don’t have any words, just anger and disgust and vomit

You can report this group on Facebook.

ambelle:

lasiguanaba:

holidaytruths:

A lot of people in their town support them. They’re supporting the rapists. And telling the victim that she DESERVED to get raped. What the fuck is this world coming to? 

rape culture everyone

I hope they end up flipping burgers for the rest of their lives : )

theriotmag:

And, icing on the rapecake: Fox News “accidentally” released the name of the victim.

hamburgerjack:

think-progress:

Fox News Guest receives racist rape and death threats after arguing guns aren’t the solution to rape.

wretchedoftheearth:

gatsbywasacommie:

rightlibertarian:

essentialisinvisible:

soviet-princess:

men’s rights key issues

• why cant i hit women
• why cant i grope women
• why cant i kiss women suddenly

No. It’s more like

• why can’t men have the same custody rights as women
• why male domestic violence is not acknowledged in society
• why men are automatically drafted into the Army

nah it’s more like

• patriarchy causes those problems
• read a book

the draft hasn’t been in place for years you fucking moron. seconding zach. 

• men do have the same custody rights as women
• they rarely want custody of their children, but when they do, they often receive custody (somewhere from 60 - 70% of the time
• even if they’re abusive
• men also - thanks to the income and wealth gap between men and women - tend to be able to afford better lawyers
• and unfair and stricter standards are applied to women
• even if that were the case, it would be because women are viewed as “natural” caregivers

kikismisandryservice:

i’m honestly confused as to where this whole “false allegation” shit comes from

because if roughly 2% of rape allegations are false

then why the fuck are so many people’s immediate reactions “oh maybe they’re faking it”

are you watching too much SVU

what’s wrong with you

even thinking about bringing charges against a rapist, given the fucking statistics for success is daunting

and rape culture is such that you’re damned both ways to sunday, no matter what you do, like that post today.

fucking anti-essjay bullshitters “why should we even believe her”, because of course what you need after being able to talk about your rape is assholes on the internet invalidating it because no evidence will ever be enough, right

but then even more assholes criticizing you because if you don’t go to the police, you’re still wrong.

you can’t win.

you can never fucking win, with rape culture. you’re wrong if you report him, you’re wrong if you don’t.

and i know i’m rambling, i’m just so fucking upset by this because of the utter ridiculousness of it

and this shit is what makes it difficult to talk about rape

because you have people discrediting you based on what THEY think you should have done, based on THEIR ideas of what rape looks and feels like (even if they have never been assaulted themselves)

ugh

i just

i’m so fucking done with this rapist enabling bullshit

youcancallmepawpaw:

theuppitynegras:

sloppyjoebiden:

subsaharian:

subterraneanscum:

Rape culture is telling a female celebrity she “should have worn underwear~” instead of confronting how it’s really fucked up that men can make a living by forcibly shoving camera lenses between young women’s legs every time they leave the house.

Rappers are freaking idiots, but we already established that.

I think you misread the post…

can’t you smell the racism?

racismschool:

rameysaurus:

brokeymcpoverty:

I’m not going to insult your intelligence by explaining why these shirts are fucked up and should be removed from your website ASAP. I’m going to assume that you know already that rape is is not a t-shirt slogan, that it is not funny, and that commodifying something…

I don’t know about the “computer generated” thing but they were taken down because tumblr user feminist-space talked to a customer rep who responded & took action VERY quickly. If you go to feminist-space.tumblr.com you can see the exchange.

I don’t really know what happened with the tumblr user you are referencing.  I got “the computer generated thing” from their twitter page. It looks like they’ve deleting their twitter profile altogether but Brokey McPoverty had already retweeted them so you can still see their explanation here: