man, girls are so …. so…. bitchy. at least guys have a “guy code” I guess, and if one guy is even talking to a girl none of his guy friends will even consider taking to her. girls on the other hand ……rofl.
Omg I know, I hate that. Especially if she’s a close friend and she thinks it’s completely okay to even just flirt with him for fun. Like girl back da hell up.
omg i noticed that too.
because men have a better sense of “owning” a person
I WAS ABOUT TO SAY THE EXACT SAME THING ^
so are we gonna discuss how fucked up it is that women have to wear makeup to be taken seriously at work and job interviews but if a woman has a genuine interest in and enjoyment of cosmetics she is written off as shallow, vain, and stupid, and consequently not taken seriously
i sincerely hope every single man mourning the “loss” of angelina jolie’s breasts trips and falls on a butcher knife
Some men who want to compliment random women on the street are genuinely good guys who just don’t understand why their comments might be unwelcome. Some men who want to compliment random women on the street are creepy predators. Most are somewhere in between, and guess what? I don’t know you, I don’t know your life, and I have no idea if you’re going to leave it at “Hey, you look good in that dress!” or follow it up with “But you’d look better without it! Har har! C’mon, where’re you going? I know you heard me! Fucking cunt, nobody wants your fat ass anyway, bitch.”
When you compliment a random woman who doesn’t know you, no matter how nice you are about it, there’s a good chance she’s going to freak out internally because for all she knows, you could be that latter type. And I get that it’s really unfair that women would just assume that about you. I get that it sucks that sometimes, expressing totally reasonable opinions like “hey you’re hot” will make women terrified of you or furious at you. That’s not fair.
But if you’re going to lay the blame for that somewhere, for fuck’s sake, don’t blame the woman. Blame all the guys who have called her a bitch and a cunt for ignoring their advances. Blame all the guys who may have harassed, abused, or assaulted her in the past. Blame all the people who may never do such a thing themselves, but who were quick to blame her and tell her to just get over it. Blame the fact that if she stops and talks to you and then something bad happens, people will blame her for stopping and talking to you.
When you compliment a random woman who doesn’t know you, no matter how nice you are about it, there’s a good chance she’s going to freak out internally because for all she knows, you could be that latter type. And I get that it’s really unfair that women would just assume that about you. I get that it sucks that sometimes, expressing totally reasonable opinions like “hey you’re hot” will make women terrified of you or furious at you. That’s not fair.
But if you’re going to lay the blame for that somewhere, for fuck’s sake, don’t blame the woman. Blame all the guys who have called her a bitch and a cunt for ignoring their advances. Blame all the guys who may have harassed, abused, or assaulted her in the past. Blame all the people who may never do such a thing themselves, but who were quick to blame her and tell her to just get over it. Blame the fact that if she stops and talks to you and then something bad happens, people will blame her for stopping and talking to you.
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[TRIGGER WARNING: RAPE CULTURE/ BODY SHAMING/ VICTIM-BLAMING/ STREET HARASSMENT/ MISOGYNY/ SEXIST SLURS] Why You Shouldn’t Tell That Random Girl On The Street That She’s Hot » Brute Reason (via brute-reason) ^^^^^^^^^^^^ (via misandry-mermaid) You know, I’ll go a step further and say - there are no “men who want to compliment random women on the street [who] are genuinely good guys who just don’t understand why their comments might be unwelcome.” There are guys who pretend that they don’t understand why their comments are unwelcome. But the man who whistles out his car window at me while I’m waiting for a light, the guy who stares at me while I ride past on my bike, the guy who says “Hey beautiful!” at me and my friend as we’re talking at an outdoor cafe - none of those guys want to make me feel good. Not a single one. I keep hearing about this guy! The good guy who catcalls and doesn’t get how it’s wrong, the nice guy who just wants to tell you you have beautiful eyes. And every time I’m told about that guy, it’s so that I don’t react, don’t glare, don’t respond negatively. Because who knows! Maybe he really super meant it in his heart and was just trying to pay you a compliment. Because here’s the thing - here’s how I know that the nice guy ain’t real; because I always do react, always glare, always respond negatively. I always say, “No, that wasn’t okay. Don’t do that to me again.” And a nice guy? Would come back with, “Oh, man, I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to make you feel bad. You’re right. I won’t do that again.” A nice guy who didn’t get it would say, “Wow, I didn’t think about it that way. Is this something that you think a lot of women feel?” And that never happens - what happens is I get called names, or have coffee thrown at my face, or get shoved up against a wall, or get followed for fifteen blocks, or get shouted out from six inches away by a man who’s six inches taller and fifty pounds bigger than I am. What happens is that I’m shown, again and again and again, that these “compliments” are prologues to a story this guy’s just desperate to tell, the story of him scaring me, hurting me, making sure I know my place. And he can tell the story as loud as he wants, because he can always fall back on, “I’m a good guy! She’s the one who started it! I was just trying to pay the bitch a compliment.” So stop telling me that there are good guys out there who just don’t understand, because there aren’t. What there are, are guys who will pretend to be good guys, right up until you don’t smile at them. And then they show who they really are. (via leupagus) |
avengers challenge → day 10 - underrated character.
virginia ‘pepper’ potts.
let me tell you a little something about pepper potts. she gets so much hate all the time because people write her off as nothing more than tony’s love interest. but that is complete bullshit. this woman right here has dealt with over ten years of tony’s shit and is pretty much responsible for his survival. she maintains stark industries and she got her job because she found an accounting error and she told the boss that he was wrong. a simple, unknown employee told the boss of a billion dollar company that his workings were wrong. she takes no shit from anyone. she’s smart, witty and can handle herself in situations where normal people would fall apart. and in the recent movie, she puts on the damn iron man suit and saves tony’s ass. pepper potts is a bamf and better than you and i am sick of people brushing her off as a useless character when she is so much more.
I don’t brush her off as useless by blaming her character…I blame the shitty ass writing that was approved that turned her into a pretty face
God it pisses me off when, at ANY TIME, female characters (and the actors who play them) get the BLAME when it’s really the misogynistic writers’/directors’/producers’/Hollywood’s fault. I see that condescension in film reviews all the fucking time. The (without fail cis white male) reviewers get so pissy about it, and it’s like, ASSHOLE! If you actually give a fuck, take it up with Hollywood, take it up with patriarchy. Don’t blame a hard-working actor for a system that’s outside of her control. And this can be applied to almost any other marginalized group when it comes to media representation too.
i need feminism because people will write pages and pages upon how problematic it is that women derive sexual gratitifcation from looking upon sensually staged and consensual photoshoots of male celebrities while the internet at large sees fit to ‘mourn’ a woman getting a double mastectomy to avoid bloody dying of cancer
Just saw this on my Dashboard. Good ol’ Misogyny in action.
I love when people make comics about stuff that has never ever happened. Adorable.
*misandry.
And it has happened. Just by radical misandrists.
Which are not the same as feminists.maybe when referring to ~radical misandrists~ you could use “who” instead of “which” and then we might* believe you think women are people and not objects.
not like it’s rly worth addressing this but anyway, first, no one responds with “omg a guy looked at me.” It’s like whoever made this comic can’t even stand how we talk about how mundane encounters make us feel unsafe because of how we are treated.
Like there are several panels missing before this comic starts. Where the woman is constantly told not to walk by herself at night, or she’ll be raped. Where she’s constantly exposed to the fact that multiple men she knows think rape is a joke or admit to raping so long as the word rape isn’t used. Where basically every woman knows a woman who was raped and didn’t tell anyone because she knew people would blame her/say she was making it up/etc.
And then, yeah, it’s upsetting to realize you can’t even walk home at night without jumping out of your own skin. That even parking lots at the mall require looking under your car and keeping your keys ready to stab. It’s not about the guy, it’s about an inability to feel safe around harmless strangers. If there’s a reason you’ve never felt inclined to do these things, it isn’t that you’re superior, it’s that you’ve never had the life experience of being prepared to be a victim of assault.
a lot of times I just keep longer things on my personal but, I’ve been light on longer posts here
This comic is so fucking delusional.
[T.W.: RAPE/RAPE CULTURE]
this is actually disgusting.
Saw “THIS”?! They immediately dehumanized this woman and then further dehumanized her by stating they would rape her. Every one of these males. Rape was the first thing that came to mind. This is beyond disgusting.
Go on. Tell me rape culture isn’t real. Tell me how “Everyone knows rape is wrong.”
Go on. Tell me again about how that male sexual entitlement over women’s bodies isn’t so much of an issue I’m sexist if I dare generalize men.
Tell me.
I fucking dare you.
The “Collect Her” episode of The Powerpuff Girls essentially predicted Brony culture which is funny because My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic was created by Lauren Faust who was an artist/writer/director for The Powerpuff Girls
holy shit
Note that the fan was the villain of the episode but that Faust has gone out of her way to defend bronies even by the time they drew highly misogynist porn of her self-insert OC.
There’s a lesson in there. Somewhere. That may or may not have to do with Faust.
Chris Colfer
[TW: ABLEISM/SLUT-SHAMING/MISOGYNY]
- “I love when people have uncontrollable Tourette’s, you know, like — SHIT.”
- “Preparing for “The Land of Stories: The Wishing Spell” audio book. Finally, having voices in my head pays off. #SchizophrenicPerks”
- “It’s a genre change for me, it takes place in a 1930s asylum, which is similar to high school but it’s a very different film. I wrote it as well, I play a supporting character. I’m a crazy ass patient, crazy crazy patient.”
- “Where do the other characters in your life fit into the Land of Stories?” (On mental patient in his asylum movie) “He’s probably be in the Dwarf Forest. Where all the other crazies and loons are.”
- “I don’t mean to upset anyone by saying this, but it is just kind of a known fact that a lot of gay kids are very promiscuous and non-exclusive with each other when they have relationships, which is really sad”
- “It’s about smart kids and not about stupid kids who wanna get laid and that’s their biggest goal in life. “
- “I don’t think I have the right parts to appreciate “50 Shades of Grey.”
- “I have not read “Twilight”. I tried reading the first one, but I really feel like I was not…I didn’t have enough estrogen in my body to appreciate it.”
- “There’s nothing more terrifying than teenage girls, because they have so many emotions at once.”
He was also racist on Chelsea Lately. Chelsea made a joke about how Chris is a strong independent black woman deep down and he laughed. He was also really classist/elitist when he made fun of people needing to go to the emergency room in an old TV interview.
“Bitchface”
You ever notice that if a woman has a neutral expression (or looks like she’s concentrating on something), she’s read as angry or antisocial?
There is no equivalent for men. The default expression for men is the neutral expression.
yep. cuz God forbid she concentrate on anything besides being accommodating and making men feel ~*special*~
bitchface = shes not catering to me and my ego what a bitch
Leading Men Age, Leading Women Don’t | Vulture
There are more charts if you click through.
I’m so glad this info graphic is going around, because so many people don’t realize how ageism and misogyny play hand in hand and how the sexualization of young girls play into this.
Santoine: This is an important graph I felt you all should see and understand
This also shouldn’t detract from what KIND of roles certain actors of different ages get when those actors are POC and when they’re white.
What kind of world do we live in when young men are so proud of violating unconscious girls that they pass proof around to their friends? It’s the same kind of world in which being labeled a slut comes with such torturous social repercussions that suicide is preferable to enduring them. As a woman named Sara Erdmann so aptly tweeted to me, “I will never understand why it is more shameful to be raped than to be a rapist.”
And yet it is: so much so that young men seem to think there’s nothing wrong with—and maybe something hilarious about—sharing pictures of themselves raping young women. And why not? Their friends will defend them, as they did in Steubenville, tweeting that the young woman was “asking for it” and that the boys were being unfairly targeted.
Women and girls are the ones expected to carry the shame of the sexual crimes perpetrated against them. And that shame is a tremendous load to bear, because once you’re labeled a slut, empathy and compassion go out the window. The word is more than a slur—it’s a designation.
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| — | “In Rape Tragedies, the Shame Is Ours,” my latest at The Nation (via jessicavalenti) |
