Argentina JUST PASSED a groundbreaking gender identity bill!!!
From now on, people will be able to change the name and gender on their ID without needing psychiatric permission or any body modifications. Furthermore, anyone who does want hormones or surgery will be able to access them for free through the public and private health system.
It was passed unanimously today by the Senate
UNANIMOUSLY
Argentina is just getting more awesome by the year. Countries that aren’t Argentina need to take note.
sigh. y so behind, US?
Quick refresher course because I love you all a whole lot and don’t want you to accidentally do gross things because it hasn’t been pointed out yet how gross it is or because you forgot!! and I don’t want people to get hurt as a result of that!!
- Woman =/= having a uterus, having a uterus =/= woman
- some women have a uterus! some don’t! some people with a uterus aren’t women!
- Woman =/= having a vagina, having a vagina =/= woman
- some women have a vagina! some don’t! some people with a vagina aren’t women!
- Woman =/= having periods, having periods =/= woman
- some women have periods! some don’t! some people who have periods aren’t women!
so please make sure you respect the way people identify instead of making assumptions, and please make sure you’re not perpetuating these ideas by spreading them without some v. heavy criticism!!!
thank you you are all really great!!!!
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Are we really living in 2013? The Lego ads from the 1980s seem more modern to me.
If you want to find out more about the advent of Lego’s sexist advertising, I’d suggest this video by Feminist Frequency.
Yep. And to be clear: it’s not that dolls/”playing house” or more socially inclined play toys aren’t of value; they are. It’s the overall tone/execution and utter condescension that make the bottom toys sexist.
It always struck me that men actually might benefit from the “bumbling idiot” stereotype. In very many of the dysfunctional heterosexual relationships I’ve observed, men basically only work then come home and do nothing, and women do a majority of the actual work and men use this learned or feigned helplessness to get women to do everything for them. They’re socialized this way, I think. I married this very equality talking, sensitive, feminist-ally, politically correct kind of man and yet the day we got back from our honeymoon, my ex husband suddenly became an infant who no longer knew how to operate an iron, pack a grocery bag, balance the budget, take a pee without splattering the entire bathroom, flush the toilet, cook his own meals, return phone calls, put his own dishes in the sink before they turned moldy, or even drop letters off at the post office.
The bumbling idiot stereotype doesn’t hurt men. Men are not being denied jobs or health care or legal rights because of being seen as bumbling idiots. They benefit from the stereotype because it means that women do everything.
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Classic Disney Posters as they would be marketed today, without the silly Girly Names!
So apparently it’s no longer acceptable to name a Disney film after the CLASSIC, BELOVED story that it’s based on… if it’s got a girly name. Rapunzel, pffftt. The Snow Queen - how about Frozen instead?
Nope, nowadays everything needs to boiled down to a single, genderless word for maximum marketing potential!
So in the tradition of “Tangled,” I fixed these classic Disney movie posters so they wouldn’t be unmarketable and girly. You’re welcome!
Oh no this is good
Tangled was good (albeit slightly problematic), but I never understood the idea of changing the name from Rapunzel. We know it’s about Rapunzel. Her name is Rapunzel.
Also, wouldn’t Sleeping Beauty be called “Pricked”?
I feel like if you’re going to pick a bone with a movie, what they called it is like the least of your worries.
I like the name Tangled. Gives it more of an action feel, which is what it was compared to a lot of other Disney classics.
It’s not so much the name itself but the idea behind it. Like, they changed it so it would focus on Flynn more, and my boyfriend actually pointed out there are a lot of times where he, rather than Rapunzel would be in the center of the frame.
It’s not to much that it’s bad that Flynn is in the movie or that he has a story (certainly better than Phillip or Eric), but the conscious decision to make a princess movie and then change it to something that makes it seem like it’s not is kinda…weird? I’m not sure how to explain it, but even the promotional poster in LA was of Rapunzel and Flynn behind her hair looking mischievously out.
It just seems really out of place.
Also, in response to the idea of the action based stuff. Yes, there’s more fighting than most Disney movies, but Mulan was incredibly action filled, she’s canonized as a Disney princess (despite not being a real princess, but whatever) and the movie is still named after her.
ALL OF THIS^ The whole point is the marketing. The fact that kid films just cannot be centered around young women. It’s just that extra step to perpetuating the idea to kids (and thereby indoctrinating them) that male centered stories are the DEFAULT and that’s correct and normal. It perpetuates the idea that a good 80-90% of media will be (white) male centered-and that is totally cool. That’s the issue. It’s cool to have media male centered, but we practically swim in it (especially when u look at the works that get nominated/rewarded). Women and POC (WAY worse for THEM than white women mind u) have to fight tooth and nail just to get ANY stories about them. Let alone GOOD ones that have studio backing and get nominated for a fuck ton of high-brow awards YEARLY, without question. It’s insulting that Disney couldn’t TRUST to market a female-centered film to kids of ALL genders. Just look up the dude who got all whiny when Brave (problematic and just okay though it may be) had the audacity to not be ALL ABOUT THE MENZ for one fucking film.
YES ALL OF MY FEELINGS I JUST REALLY LOVE THIS MOVIE OK
I just have to reblog anything that counters that awful documentary I had to watch in school about how Disney is nothing but racist and misogynistic.
I kinda want to watch that now. It sounds hilarious.
Yeah okay but she was still a prisoner in the damn castle and the terms of her father’s safety were her freedom and she still had to deal with this dude being an angry fuckhead. I just can’t with this interpretation. So if you’re in an abusive relationship (like this wasn’t, this was plain old imprisonment) you should look for signs of change instead of walking out on the abuser’s ass and never taking one look back because ffs there are probably some dudes out there who won’t abuse you?
Wow it was great of Belle to reward Beast with compassion after he imprisoned her dad and might have kept him there til he was dead of sickness, released him only after she sacrificed her freedom, kept screaming at her and acting like an unstable angry fuckhead, and finally did the one actual decent act of keeping her from being killed by wolves. You know what really would have been a healthy choice? Leaving his ass in the snow to die. I love this movie and all, but this is Stockholm Syndrome plain and simple and trying to act like it’s not problematic or awful in any way is gross.
And Disney IS misogynistic and racist.
FUCKING ALL OF THAT^ Like it’s OKAY to like problematic pop culture-the ENTIRETY of media and film is problematic. You’re not a bad person for liking problematic works. But it’s really not okay to pretend that shitty representation/racism/misogyny/shitty gender themes do not occur in this movie or any of disney’s other movies. Because that’s NOT the case. Because no, film and disney IS misogynistic and racist. And it’s really not funny or cute to pretend otherwise. Disney is STILL misogynistic and racist.
You know I have to ramble about Sailor Moon.
I actively adore both the anime and the manga and think both have their place in my dorky shrine of excellent inspiring tales about ladies.
But I think it was correct of Naoko to note when asked about the difference between the manga and the anime that her story is a story by a woman, about women, and for women and that men are involved in the anime so there’s a male influence there. Does this mean 100% bad, and do I think she was trying to say it’s terrible? No. But I do think it’s a thing to consider, especially in regards to the male gaze that definitely could be present in the anime. Both the anime and the manga had like, sexualized content, but the content in the anime is seen through a different lens because this is men doing it. And Takuechi herself allegedly was critical of the male gaze sometimes (like, on one hand she thought the transformations were pretty and on the other hand was a little squicked out is pretty clear)
Let’s look at the pos and neg here in major changes
1. Usagi and Mamoru. Naoko has straight up said she crafted Mamoru to be her ideal dude, and that’s reflected in how she made him basically the most supportive boyfriend in the world who admits pretty immediately when he screws up and is basically constantly open about how much he completely adores Usagi and thinks she’s the most kickass girl in the universe 24/7. Seriously, once an arc you have Mamoru going “THANKS FOR SAVING MY LIFE USAGI UR MY INVINCIBLE HERO” and Usagi being like “NO PROB BB I’LL ALWAYS PROTECT YOU”. Naoko worked really, really hard on presenting a positive relationship to girls so they could see “yeah, it is possible for a guy to really respect you, don’t settle for less.”Really, manga Mamoru is probably one of the most healthy, feminist boyfriends in all of shoujo. There’s also the fact the manga flat out said Mamoru was going to take over the rearing of Chibiusa so Usagi could do what she wanted, and also presented their mutual miscommunications and drama and jealousy as real problems they had to work through together by communicating.
Mamoru’s main problem in the manga is he actually is this kid with really low self esteem who feels he lucked out way too much by landing with Usagi and he *burdens* her, and Usagi helps him work through that- in the anime, it could be kind of the opposite, with Usagi demonstrating really low self esteem in regards to Mamoru at times and feeling she’s not good enough, even being told by others she better shape up or she’ll lose him. Kinda not as subversive.
I think the animators don’t really have Naoko’s idea of what the ideal boyfriend is, so they had a certain idea of how boys and girls should interact, that guys need to be stoic and tough and all that shit, and so we got shit like the R break-up and paternalism and Mamoru swooping into save the day rather than his manga role of being like “hey sailor moon im yer backup i’ll give you some of my power i’d die if it meant you could fight go get em gurl”. and stuff. On the other hand, the fact they were not as interested in presenting the relationship meant that the anime tended to focus on the friendships and side characters more than the manga did and Mamoru was less prominent and also a lot more in the mold of being this domestic guy who is there to support Usagi in later seasons.
However, I do feel even in later seasons it didn’t reach that height of equality. And it’s reflected in small things like, in the manga when Mamoru left he basically babbled to Usagi that he’d miss her so much and he’d write to her, while in the anime Mamoru was all “I’LL BE REALLY BUSY” and Usagi was the one being like “I’LL WRITE TO YOU THO”. The anime was clearly kinda uncomfortable with having a guy be so openly devoted, dependent and emotional in that situation.
It’s not that Mamoru isn’t a subversive shoujo love interest in the anime who clearly totally believes in Usagi- it’s just that he’s a lot moreso in the manga, and that actually makes the relationship both more feminist and more real. On the other hand, as I said, it’s kind of nice that the anime doesn’t focus on him as much.
2. Sex- Usagi sort of subtly is interested in sex with Mamoru in the anime and propositions him for it, and it goes over his head. In the manga, she similarly is the one who’s more aggressive and interested in sex, and Mamoru like…well, he responds. They have sex in the manga, or get close to having sex a lot.
whoa this is getting some reblogs! I think the recent spate is because fandf reblogged it. Thanks :)
A Femmeinist On Femmephobia and the Empowerment of Femme
The other day i was out at a poetry reading. It was largely fantastic, lovely, insightful, and funny. The evening was truly enjoyable, despite the zipper on the back of my dress breaking, forcing me to borrow a really really butch vest to stay decent. But something burrowed under my skin.
One of the poems read was an obvious commentary on marriage. This masculine presenting poet called out folks who spent “$26,000” on their dresses, mocked women who “feel fat,” described people’s love for their dresses in a scornful tone, and ended with the lines “Say yes to the dress/ Say yes to the dress/ Say yes to the dress/ Just say no.”
Now, i understand, and even appreciate, humorous critiques of capitalism and consumer culture. However, i didn’t find this at all tasteful. They ignored the very real cultural pressure imposed upon women (cis and trans*) and otherwise feminine identified folks to conform to archetypal modes of femininity. (cont.)
How media clearly reflects the sexism and the racism we cannot see in ourselves.
I wanted my first-year film students to understand what happens to a story when actual human beings inhabit your characters, and the way they can inspire storytelling. And I wanted to teach them how to look at headshots and what you might be able to tell from a headshot. So for the past few years I’ve done a small experiment with them.
Some troubling shit always occurs.It works like this: I bring in my giant file of head shots, which include actors of all races, sizes, shapes, ages, and experience levels. Each student picks a head shot from the stack and gets a few minutes to sit with the person’s face and then make up a little story about them.
Namely, for white men, they have no trouble coming up with an entire history, job, role, genre, time, place, and costume. They will often identify him without prompting as “the main character.” The only exception? “He would play the gay guy.” For white women, they mostly do not come up with a job (even though it was specifically asked for), and they will identify her by her relationships. “She would play the mom/wife/love interest/best friend.” I’ve heard “She would play the slut” or “She would play the hot girl.” A lot more than once.
For nonwhite men, it can be equally depressing. “He’s in a buddy cop movie, but he’s not the main guy, he’s the partner.” “He’d play a terrorist.” “He’d play a drug dealer.” “A thug.” “A hustler.” “Homeless guy.” One Asian actor was promoted to “villain.”
For nonwhite women (grab onto something sturdy, like a big glass of strong liquor), sometimes they are “lucky” enough to be classified as the girlfriend/love interest/mom, but I have also heard things like “Well, she’d be in a romantic comedy, but as the friend, you know?” “Maid.” “Prostitute.” “Drug addict.”
I should point out that the responses are similar whether the group is all or mostly-white or extremely racially mixed, and all the groups I’ve tried this with have been about equally balanced between men and women, though individual responses vary. Women do a little better with women, and people of color do a little better with people of color, but female students sometimes forget to come up with a job for female actors and black male students sometimes tell the class that their black male actor wouldn’t be the main guy.
Once the students have made their pitches, we interrogate their opinions. “You seem really sure that he’s not the main character – why? What made you automatically say that?” “You said she was a mom. Was she born a mom, or did she maybe do something else with her life before her magic womb opened up and gave her an identity? Who is she as a person?” In the case of the “thug“, it turns out that the student was just reading off his film resume. This brilliant African American actor who regularly brings houses down doing Shakespeare on the stage and more than once made me weep at the beauty and subtlety of his performances, had a list of film credits that just said “Thug #4.” “Gang member.” “Muscle.” Because that’s the film work he can get. Because it puts food on his table.
So, the first time I did this exercise, I didn’t know that it would turn into a lesson on racism, sexism, and every other kind of -ism. I thought it was just about casting. But now I know that casting is never just about casting, and this day is a real teachable opportunity. Because if we do this right, we get to the really awkward silence, where the (now mortified) students try to sink into their chairs. Because, hey, most of them are proud Obama voters! They have been raised by feminist moms! They don’t want to be or see themselves as being racist or sexist. But their own racism and sexism is running amok in the room, and it’s awkward.
This for every time someone criticizes how characters of color and female characters of color especially are treated in text and by subsequent fandoms. It’s never “just a television/movie/book”. It’s never been ”just”.
How media clearly reflects the sexism and the racism we cannot see in ourselves.
I wanted my first-year film students to understand what happens to a story when actual human beings inhabit your characters, and the way they can inspire storytelling. And I wanted to teach them how to look at headshots and what you might be able to tell from a headshot. So for the past few years I’ve done a small experiment with them.
Some troubling shit always occurs.It works like this: I bring in my giant file of head shots, which include actors of all races, sizes, shapes, ages, and experience levels. Each student picks a head shot from the stack and gets a few minutes to sit with the person’s face and then make up a little story about them.
Namely, for white men, they have no trouble coming up with an entire history, job, role, genre, time, place, and costume. They will often identify him without prompting as “the main character.” The only exception? “He would play the gay guy.” For white women, they mostly do not come up with a job (even though it was specifically asked for), and they will identify her by her relationships. “She would play the mom/wife/love interest/best friend.” I’ve heard “She would play the slut” or “She would play the hot girl.” A lot more than once.
For nonwhite men, it can be equally depressing. “He’s in a buddy cop movie, but he’s not the main guy, he’s the partner.” “He’d play a terrorist.” “He’d play a drug dealer.” “A thug.” “A hustler.” “Homeless guy.” One Asian actor was promoted to “villain.”
For nonwhite women (grab onto something sturdy, like a big glass of strong liquor), sometimes they are “lucky” enough to be classified as the girlfriend/love interest/mom, but I have also heard things like “Well, she’d be in a romantic comedy, but as the friend, you know?” “Maid.” “Prostitute.” “Drug addict.”
I should point out that the responses are similar whether the group is all or mostly-white or extremely racially mixed, and all the groups I’ve tried this with have been about equally balanced between men and women, though individual responses vary. Women do a little better with women, and people of color do a little better with people of color, but female students sometimes forget to come up with a job for female actors and black male students sometimes tell the class that their black male actor wouldn’t be the main guy.
Once the students have made their pitches, we interrogate their opinions. “You seem really sure that he’s not the main character – why? What made you automatically say that?” “You said she was a mom. Was she born a mom, or did she maybe do something else with her life before her magic womb opened up and gave her an identity? Who is she as a person?” In the case of the “thug“, it turns out that the student was just reading off his film resume. This brilliant African American actor who regularly brings houses down doing Shakespeare on the stage and more than once made me weep at the beauty and subtlety of his performances, had a list of film credits that just said “Thug #4.” “Gang member.” “Muscle.” Because that’s the film work he can get. Because it puts food on his table.
So, the first time I did this exercise, I didn’t know that it would turn into a lesson on racism, sexism, and every other kind of -ism. I thought it was just about casting. But now I know that casting is never just about casting, and this day is a real teachable opportunity. Because if we do this right, we get to the really awkward silence, where the (now mortified) students try to sink into their chairs. Because, hey, most of them are proud Obama voters! They have been raised by feminist moms! They don’t want to be or see themselves as being racist or sexist. But their own racism and sexism is running amok in the room, and it’s awkward.
This is hugely important.
Just because you don’t “hate women” doesn’t mean you’re not sexist.
Just because you don’t “hate black people” doesn’t mean you’re not racist.
We all carry the unconscious bias and oppressive stereotypes that we’ve been raised with, and that we see subtly reinforced by the media and by others on a daily basis.Patriarchy/Kyiarchy live in our heads, hidden where we can’t see them, and it takes a life-long effort to educate ourselves and question our motives to break them down.
GPOY
Exactly. When people go “awww” at this vid/gif, it is RAPE CULTURE at work. She doesn’t have time for your entitlement bullshit, kid.
It’s finally here! This is my ongoing list of gender terms, hopefully people like it and find it helpful. My plan is to update and add to this list as time goes on so check it out and tell me what you think! If you have a term you think ought to be added or edited or just a typo I missed just shoot me a message.
Check out the PDF of the list here: https://docs.google.com/open?id=0Bx_PqZ8BOrCKcFVqekx5aVRPUWM
And you can see my professional (-ish) blog at, jessmbear.blogspot.com, though there’s almost nothing on there at the moment but I plan for that to change soon.
AFAB/FAAB: Assigned female at birth and female assigned at birth respectively. These terms refer to what gender you were assigned at birth (in this case female, thus you are expected to be a girl/woman), and are important because many trans* people use them as a way to talk about their gender identity without being pinned down to more essentialist narratives about their “sex” or what gender they “used to be”.
Agender: Some agender people would define their identity as being neither a man nor a woman while others would define agender as not having any gender.
AMAB/MAAB: Assigned male at birth and male assigned at birth respectively. These terms refer to what gender you were assigned at birth (in this case male, thus you are expected to be a boy/man), and are important because many trans* people use them as a way to talk about their gender identity without being pinned down to more essentialist narratives about their “sex” or what gender they “used to be”.
Androgyne: As a gender identity it can overlap with an androgynous gender expression but not always. Androgynes may define their identity in a variety of ways, feeling as if they are between man and woman or a totally separate identity.
Androgynous: Having neither a clearly masculine or feminine appearance or blending masculine and feminine.
Bigender/Trigender/Pangender: People who feel they are two, three, or all genders. They may shift between these genders or be all of them at the same time.
Binarism: Erasing, ignoring or expressing hate towards people who identify outside of the gender binary. Also supporting the incorrect idea that the only legitimate genders are man and woman, and ignoring all others.
Boi: This is a term used in a variety of ways by a variety of communities though it generally communicates a level of identification with maleness and/or masculinity. However, because of the versatility of this word this isn’t always the case.
Bottom surgery: Any of a variety of gender-related surgeries dealing with genitalia. They can include: vaginoplasty, phalloplasty, vaginectomy, metoidoplasty, orchidectomy, scrotoplasty and others.
Butch: A masculine gender expression which can be used to describe people of any gender. Butch can also be a gender identity to some.
CAFAB/CAMAB: Coercively assigned female at birth and coercively assigned male at birth respectively. These terms refer to what gender intersex people are assigned at birth and reflect the specific way that intersex people are coerced into one of two limited gender categories which attempt to erase their difference. These terms have been co-opted by trans* people but this needs to stop as these are intersex specific terms.
Cisgender: Someone whose gender identity matches the gender they were assigned at birth, someone who is not trans*. Cisgender is often shortened to cis.
Cisgender Privilege: The privileges cisgender people have because their gender identities match their assigned gender and because they are considered “normal”. For example, cis people don’t have to worry about violence and institutionalized discrimination simply due to the fact they are cis.
Cissexism: Erasing trans* people and their experiences, and/or expressing hatred and bigotry towards trans* people.
Cissexual: Sometimes this term is used synonymously with cisgender, other times it functions as an opposite to transexual in referring to someone who has done nothing to physically change gendered parts their body. Some find this term to be inaccurate or questionable as it puts a lot of the focus of trans* identity on physical transition.
Cross dresser: Someone who dresses as and presents themselves as a gender other than the one they typically identify with. Cross dressing can be purely aesthetic, sexual, a facet of someone’s gender identity, or have other meanings.
Demigirl: Someone who identifies with being a girl or a woman on some level but not completely.
Demiguy: Someone who identifies with being a boy, guy, or a man on some level but not completely.
Drag: Taking on the appearance and characteristics associated with a certain gender, usually for entertainment purposes and often to expose the humorous and performative elements of gender.
Dyadic: Used as an adjective, this refers to non-intersex people.
Dysphoria: Unhappiness or sadness with all or some gendered aspects of one’s body, or in response to social misgendering. Some trans* people experience dysphoria, some don’t.
Female bodied: A term for someone assigned female at birth. Though still occasionally used this term is very problematic as it genders bodies non-consensually and plays into cissexism (in that breasts or a vulva, for example, are considered inherently female).
Femme: A feminine gender expression which can be used to describe people of any gender. Femme is also be a gender identity to some.
Ftm/f2m/female to male: A term usually synonymous with trans man but also occasionally used by other FAAB trans* people. This term is problematic to some FAAB trans* people as they feel they were never female and because X to Y terms can put too much focus on traditional means of physical transition.
Full Time: Living as and attempting to pass as your true gender identity one hundred percent of the time. This term is problematic to some because it can put a lot of the focus on the physical aspects of trans* identity and ignore the processes many people go through to accept themselves and to come out if they choose to. It is also a term that is getting to be a bit outdated but it’s still used in some communities.
Gender: A complex combination of roles, expressions, identities, performances, and more which is assigned gendered meaning. Gender is self-defined as well as defined by our larger society and how gender is embodied and defined varies from culture to culture and from person to person.
Gender assignment: The gender we are assigned at birth, usually based on genitals alone. It is assumed that our identities should and will match this assignment but this isn’t the case for most trans* people.
Gender attribution: The act of categorizing people we come into contact with as male, female, or unknown. Gender attribution is questionable because it can lead to misgendering people unintentionally because one can never know a person’s gender identity just by looking at them.
Gender binary: The pervasive social system that tells us there can only be masculine cis men and feminine cis women, and there can be no alternatives in terms of gender identity or expression.
Gender expression: How one expresses their gender outwardly and/or the facets of a person’s expression which have gendered connotations in our culture. There is no right or wrong way to express your gender.
Gender fuck: The act of messing with gendered expectations on purpose; the intentional crossing, mixing, and blending of gender-specific signals.
Gender gifted: This term can be used very broadly to include any and all trans* and/or gender non-conforming people. It is a celebratory word that highlights how amazing it can be to have a unique and non-normative gender.
Gender identity: An individual’s internal sense of what gender they are. One’s gender identity may or may not align with their assigned gender, and one’s gender identity is not visible to others.
Gender neutral pronouns: Pronouns other than the usually gendered he or she. Some examples are ze/hir/hirs, and they/them/their but there are many others.
Gender nonconforming (GNC): Not fully conforming to gendered social expectations, whether that be in terms of expression, roles, or performance.
Gender panic: The fear and revulsion some experience when presented with a person who does not meet their expectations for gender performance, expression, identity or roles.
Gender role: Cultural expectations for what people should do with their lives, what activities they should enjoy or excel at, and how they should behave, based on what their gender is.
Genderfluid: This term can be used as a specific identity or as a way of articulating the changing nature of one’s gender identity or expression. People who are genderfluid may feel that their gender identity or expression is constantly changing, or that it switches back and forth.
Genderless: A term very similar to agender but sometimes with more of a focus on not having a gender
Genderqueer: This term can be used as an umbrella term for all people who queer gender, as a somewhat similar term to gender nonconforming, or as a specific non-binary gender identity. As an umbrella term is can include gender nonconforming people, non-binary people, and much more. As a specific identity it can generally be understood as a gender that is neither man nor woman, possible in between the two or seen as a totally separate gender altogether.
GSM: An acronym standing for gender and sexuality minorities. GSM is a useful term as it is succinct and it is very inclusive, including people who are gay, queer, bisexual, intersex, pansexual, asexual, lesbians, transgender/trans*, genderqueer, gender non-conforming, kink, polyamorous, and more.
Hermaphrodite: An out of date and generally offensive term for intersex people. Some intersex people may seek to reclaim this term but as a rule, if you’re not intersex don’t use it.
Intergender: Those who feel their gender identity is in between man and woman, is both man and woman, or is outside of the binary of man and woman. This term is sometimes used by intersex people who are also non-binary.
Intersex: A person born with any manner of supposed “ambiguity” in terms of gendered physical characteristics. This can include reproductive organs, genitals, hormones, chromosomes, or any combination there of.
LGBT: A common acronym which stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender/trans*. There are other variations similar to this acronym, such as LGBTQQIAA which stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/trans*, queer, questioning, intersex, asexual, and ally.
Male bodied: A term for someone assigned male at birth. Though still occasionally used this term is very problematic as it genders bodies non-consensually and plays into cissexism (in that a flat chest or a penis, for example, are considered inherently male).
Misgender: The act of attributing a person to a gender they do not identify as. So if you were to call someone a man but they were in fact non-binary, you would have misgendered them. You can cut down on misgendering people by trying to not practice gender attribution, and by asking people their preferred pronouns and terms when appropriate.
Mtf/m2f/male to female: A term usually synonymous with trans woman but also occasionally used by other MAAB trans* people. This term is problematic to some MAAB trans* people as they feel they were never male and because X to Y terms can put too much focus on traditional means of physical transition.
Neutrois: This is an identity generally having to do with feeling one does not have a gender, a gender identity, or a defined gender. Some people who identify as neutrois also identify as agender or genderless, and some neutrois people desire to minimize their physical gender markers and to have a more gender-neutral appearance.
Non-binary: Non-binary people are those who identify as a gender that is neither man nor woman or who are not men or women exclusively. Non-binary can refer to a specific gender identity or it can function as an umbrella term which can include (though not always) people who are genderqueer, agender, bigender, neutrois, and others.
Outing: To out oneself is to share an identity that was previously unknown to people, usually referring to sexual orientation or gender identity. You should never out someone without their consent.
Passing: When used by trans* people it can either mean that one is being read as the gender they identify as or that one is being read as cisgender. For example, a trans man who people read as a man, most likely a cis man.
Preferred pronouns: The pronouns one prefers to be called, whether they be he, she, they, it, ze, ey, or any other. It is preferable to always ask someone their preferred pronouns if possible, and to not make assumptions about a person’s pronouns. Always be sure to respect a person’s preferred pronouns, use them, and apologize if you slip up.
Pre-op/post-op/non-op: These terms refer to what gender-related surgeries a person has had, plans to have, or does not want to have. Pre-op (pre-operative) means the person plans to or wants to have some form of gender-related surgery but has not yet, post-op means they already have had some form of gender-related surgery, and non-op refers to trans* people who do not desire any gender-related surgeries. These terms should not be used to define a trans* person nor should they be applied to trans* people without their consent.
Sex: One’s sex usually refers to the gender one was assigned at birth based on the gendered parts of one’s body such as genitals and sometimes chromosomes. The category of sex is still used in trans* spaces but some feel it is a limiting and inherently cissexist classification because it genders people and their bodies non-consensually.
Sexual orientation: Refers to who one is sexually attracted to. Gender identity and sexual orientation may affect one another but they are not the same. The term transgender does not refer to sexual orientation, it refers to gender identity and/or expression.
Stealth: To be stealth is to live as the gender you identify as but to not be out as trans*, in affect it means passing as cisgender. Often people go stealth for safety reasons or so that they can have things like job and home security, something a lot of trans* people don’t have.
Stud: A term used by people of color, and primarily by African Americans, referring to people, often women, who are masculine or butch. Though many studs identify as women and with the lesbian community, not all do.
Third Gender: In some cultures third (and fourth and so on) genders may be commonly accepted alongside man and woman. Some people in western cultures may identify as third gender as well, however it’s important not to erase the multitudes of genders present in the world.
Top surgery: This term can refer to any gender-related surgery dealing with a person’s chest such as breast implants, mastectomies, and breast reduction surgeries. This term is more commonly associated with mastectomy procedures however.
“Tranny”: A derogatory term used against trans women and some other MAAB trans* people. Some MAAB trans* people are interested in reclaiming this word but as a general rule, if you’re not MAAB and trans*, don’t use it.
Trans*: This term has a similar meaning to transgender but the asterisk is meant to show a more inclusive attitude towards the multitude of people under the transgender umbrella.
Trans man: A man who was assigned female at birth.
Trans woman: A woman who was assigned male at birth.
Transexual: This term often refers to binary trans* people (trans men and trans women), or to trans* people who physically transition in any way. While still a preferred term for many, some people dislike the term because of its connection to the medicalization of trans* people and the focus it can put on physical transition.
Transfeminine: Usually a MAAB trans* person who identifies more with a female and/or feminine identity/experience. This word is also sometimes used as an umbrella term for most or all MAAB trans* people, however this is problematic as not all MAAB trans* people are feminine identified.
Transgender: An umbrella term for people whose gender identity or expression don’t match the gender they were assigned at birth.
Transition: To transition can mean a lot of things but a broad definition is the process trans* people may go through to become comfortable in terms of their gender. Transitioning may include social, physical, mental, and emotional components and may not fit into the narrative we are used to seeing. Transition may or may not include things like changing one’s name, taking hormones, having surgery, changing legal documents to reflect one’s gender identity, coming out to loved ones, dressing as one chooses, and accepting oneself among many other things. Transition in an individual process.
Transmasculine: Usually a FAAB trans* person who identifies more with a male and/or masculine identity/experience. This word is also sometimes used as an umbrella term for most or all FAAB trans* people, however this is problematic as not all FAAB trans* people are masculine identified.
Transmisogyny: Originally coined by the author Julia Serano, this term highlights the intersectionality of misogyny and transphobia and how they are often experienced as a dual form of oppression by trans* women and some other MAAB trans* people.
Transphobia: The fear or hatred of trans* people or those perceived as such.
Transvestite: Often used synonymously with cross dresser this term is usually derogatory and isn’t preferred by most people today.
Two spirit: A term specific to Native/First Nations cultures and people which some lesbian, gay, queer, pansexual, bisexual, transgender, intersex, and gender non-conforming people identify as. This term should not be used by non-Native/First Nations people.
Petition for the formal recognition of the gender neutral ‘Mx’ title in the UK
This is a petition to the UK govenrment to formally adopt the Mx title in the UK.
Mx is used instead of Mr, Ms, Mrs or Miss (etc) by people who do not identify as male or female, or just feel more comfortable using an non-gendered title.
If you live in the UK and want to support people who need a gender neutral title (or you want to be able to use one yourself!) please sign this petition and share widely.

