the-bookish-dark:

one of the funniest things about the “kids are exposed to too much violence nowadays” arguments

is that people literally used to be executed in the town square and entire families would go out to watch these people be killed and it was a huge event and people thought it was great fun

^ Also how there are very little resources/privileged white dudes don’t want to do shit to effectively combat the obscene amount of violence against children/trans* people/people with disabilities/POC/women/QUILTBAG communities. :/ 

the-bookish-dark:

one of the funniest things about the “kids are exposed to too much violence nowadays” arguments

is that people literally used to be executed in the town square and entire families would go out to watch these people be killed and it was a huge event and people thought it was great fun

^ Also how there are very little resources/privileged white dudes don’t want to do shit to effectively combat the obscene amount of violence against children/trans* people/people with disabilities/POC/women/QUILTBAG communities. :/ 

[T.W. Domestic Abuse/Violence Against Women Culture]

fuckyoustreetharassment:

“You better tell your man not to hit you in that pretty face next time!”
- guy at the bus stop this afternoon

“Damn girl! You got beat?”
- guy on 1st ave

“You beautiful miss, beautiful. Even with that beat down”
- guy outside

“What happened, you leave the kitchen?”
- guy behind the counter at the bodega

These are a few of things men have said to me since breaking my nose. Today it got to be too much and when that guy said the thing about my pretty face, I cried. Not because I was so hurt by it, but because he thought I was a battered woman and his only concern was that it didn’t ruin his view of my face.

[T.W. DOMESTIC ABUSE/ATTEMPTED MURDER]

evolutia:

60-year-old conservative David Kappheim arrested for trying to kill his girlfriend because she’s liberal. He also noted to the police that this was his 3rd attempt.

Kappheim, showed up uninvited at his girlfriend’s friends house stark naked according the arrest report and tried strangling her the next day.

When the victim asked Kappheim to not kill her he responded by laughing out loud.

slapface:

amazonziti:

rob-anybody:

josiepye:

losttimegirl:

BLESS THIS POST.

The art of being a white guy.

Seriously, not even a Nick Fury to break the monotony. Or a woman. I didn’t realize only white men could be heroes and fangirl-worthy.

This is awkward but unsurprising.

I am blinded by this snowstorm of white dudes.

ALL OF THAT^ And LOLZ at the inclusion of domestic abusers in this privileged pic set. -__- If Chris Brown were included in this, white people would throw a shit fit. Not cause they care about domestic abuse-cause they don’t-but b/c it fits white supremacy’s stereotype of black men. Nevermind that what CB did was fucked up-but god fucking forbid we acknowledge domestic abuse when it’s at the hands of white dudez. And some of these guys WOULD NOT have a pot to piss in for their sub zero level of talent if it weren’t for their male abled cis whiteness. Without that they’d be fucked. We white people just LOVE to bow at the alter of abled cis male white supremacy. 

irenestraddler:

irenestraddler:

Okay, I wish I would NEVER have to make a post like this.. but here it is.

That’s Emily, a girl I’ve known for about 10 years. That’s her face a couple of days after her boyfriend beat the shit out of her. She has to get facial surgery for broken bones, a titanium plate inserted for her “pulverized cheekbones”.

She has been amazingly open about her experience and very optimistic, retaining her sense of humour, but her ex-boyfriend hasn’t been caught yet. He beat her in Arizona but he might be out of the state by now.

His name is Chris Young. He’s a raver and a DJ. I’m not friends with him on facebook, so I can’t get any better pictures than that. But you can see that she trusted him. And he broke that trust in trying to break her.

If you see him, please call the Tucson Police. IF you know ANYTHING about him, call the police.

It’d be great if people could reblog this for her.

Yes, reblogging this WILL make you blog look ugly because domestic violence is ugly. Reblog it anyways.

(TW: domestic abuse/rape culture)

meganannedear:

yeahiwasintheshit:

simplythebess:

caseyliz:

best fucking album review ever, or best fucking album review ever?

Thank you! Yes!

ha

So…Michael Fassbender’s movies get favorable reviews. As do those of Sean Penn, Charlie Sheen, Mark Wahlberg, Bill Murray, Russell Crowe, Mel Gibson, Roman Polanski, Arnold Schwarzenegger. People love Crosby and Sinatra. 

WE NEED TO CALL OUT WHITE MEN WHO ABUSE WOMEN ALSO, OKAY?

FUCKING ALL OF THIS^ It’s not enough just to degrade black abusers. We need to call out all of the white entertainers that rape/abuse people too. And you know, YOU KNOW, that these people probably don’t give TOO MUCH of a fuck about rape culture/domestic abuse culture if they can’t be bothered to mock (the LEAST they can do tbh) white asshole abusers/rapists. 

conjuringseed:

fromonesurvivortoanother:

bebinn:

missgingerlee:

ocean-bright-wine:

queernonymoose:

If you are living with an abusive person (be it a spouse, sibling, cousin, roommate, or partner, and whether it is physical or verbal or whatever), here’s some tips.

1. If the person demands you isolate yourself by deleting things like facebook, tumblr, etc, here’s a tip: Do it, and let them watch you delete it. Then, make a new one and download ccleaner.com. It looks like a regular spyware/adware/registry cleaner remover, and one helpful aspect is it deletes history permanently and basically makes it easier to cover your tracks.

2. This is something a relative of mine did; when they are gone, take out one of the base moldings of the wall. She took the whole thing out so the line from a cut wouldn’t be seen. She cut a low notch/alcove. She hid money, extra things like snacks, and other stuff in there. Eventually, she saved up money to get away. She would use wood glue to put it back to the wall and would pry it off again to fill it in with a shoehorn. Even if you don’t get away, this can be your cubby hole for resources.

3. That same relative hid a prepaid cellphone with contacts in it to make infrequent calls and kept the phone off when hidden away.

4. I am not complete in compiling the survival guide stuff, but here is a copy of First Aid for Everyone in case you cannot go to the hospital for any reason.

REBLOG WIDELY and feel free to share and add on pieces of advice, please.

Safari’s private browsing mode is very easy to turn on and off quickly. Just check or uncheck it in the “Safari” menu. When it’s on, it won’t save your history or any other information.

Adding…if you think they’ve put a gps on your vehicle to keep tabs on you, most police departments (and some domestic violence units) will help you check. 

Wasp spray. Yes, wasp spray. If things go downhill fast, & you have to get away from a person/have something to protect yourself that looks like just another random household product, wasp spray can help you. It sprays 20+ feet, & it will temporarily blind a person if you aim at the eyes. 

As horrible as it may sound…wear the right shoes as much as you can. Running in heels is hard, & at a certain point function comes over fashion. 

Document, document, document. Have that info somewhere either than your home/computer. Even if it’s an anonymous email account on gmail to yourself. If your computer/camera/phone are destroyed, you don’t want to lose all that info. Thumb drives are your friend, & they can be hidden in all kinds of places. DO NOT KEEP IT ON YOU. 

Screencap things like they’re going out of style. If you’re being sent texts, tweets, etc., you want to be able to show them in case your abuser decides to go back and delete things at some point. 

If they have access to your banking information, whether it be by seeing/finding paper statements or having access to your online banking info or having a joint account, your movements around your town/where you are traveling to can be tracked. If you can use cash for things, do it. 

Know alternate routes to get to/from home from places you frequent, as well as police departments, etc. Sometimes losing somebody following you on the road comes down to you knowing more ways out than they do.  

Gaslighting is real. It can make you begin to feel like you are going crazy, because your entire reality can be used as a way to control & frighten you. You know you. Trust yourself. 

Here are some ways to protect your internet activity

Hide an extra set of car keys.

Along with the practical shoes tip, try not to wear many necklaces or scarves - they can be used to choke.

Keep the car backed into the driveway, with all doors locked except for the driver’s side, and with a full tank of gas.

Arrange a code word or signal for neighbors and family if you are in trouble and need them to call the police or get help in some other way.

Identify safe rooms, where there are no weapons and ways to escape. If an argument occurs, try to move to that area.

For people in domestic abuse situations and victims of stalking, keep a small bag packed in a safe place with:

• Money and bank info
• Medications
• Birth certificates and passports
• Social Security #s
• Extra keys for neighbors
• Kids’ items
• Important numbers: law enforcement, friends and family, attorneys/prosecutors, medical care, child care, pet car, creditors
• If possible, a change of clothing

This website has more suggestions for safety strategies and steps to take when leaving.

For more support, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY).

Although GPS was mentioned, there are a few other ways someone can track you:

• All iOS devices (ipad, iPod Touch, iPhone) after 2nd generation can have the Find My iPhone app installed, and then someone with access to the iTunes account connected to that device can track it. There’s also a similar app for Macbooks now.
• A lot of other smartphones have similar features.
• Even if you have Find My iPhone turned off, some apps (such as facebook or instagram) have location tracking whenever you make an update or post…check your settings app to turn off that stuff.
• Feature phones with GPS functions or software can be tracked also.
• Some car anti-theft services have tracking that can be used, especially if the abuser is the owner of the car.

One other thing:

• If it’s an emergency and you have no way to call for help, get to a public school, fire station, public library, or similar building, and try to open the locked doors. Most of these places (especially in larger towns and cities) have automatic security systems which will call the police to go and check on them.

these are all things i wish i had been aware of when i was living with my father. 

sinidentidades:

sherrypoppers:

fantara:

reduktive:

ooh you in danger gerl

BUUURN

Oh, my god, Cher. 

I know, this is rather late. I don’t know how to feel about this tbh. I mean, Chris Brown is a problematic and awful human being for his domestic abusive behavior and mentalities. But Cher has participated in fucked up problematic behavior as well. And I’m all for putting people who commit domestic abuse (or any form of violence while getting off free, especially if it upholds the fucking status quo) in their fucking place. But why do I have a feeling Cher hasn’t exactly ever called out, say, Mel Gibson or Charlie Sheen or Michael Fassbender or Sean Penn or the thousands of WHITE MALE privileged celebrities who too have a history of committing violence against cis women? :/ Good insult though. I will give Cher that. 

[T.W. DOMESTIC ABUSE DISCUSSION]

kit-kat-o-graham:

“It is Gentlemen’s Quarterly, afterall, not Ironically-Named-Magazine-That-Knowingly-Puts-Domestic-Violence-Abusers-On-Its-Cover Quarterly”

thempress:

the-bitch-goddess-success:

o rly?

x

I think there should be a petition or something. If you gonna do it for one, do it for all. Then again you’d have to dismiss half of the stars that they love to showcase from ever showing up or they’d have to be fair and give everyone a fair shake. 

You know that’s not going to be the case. They’ll say he was never “convicted” of domestic violence, given how shady the entire matter was dealt with and how his family got involved attempting to slander the other party of the domestic violence dispute. 

But I digress - I still hate Chris Brown.

bana05:

theotherchristel:

troubletonejones:

I thought the girls laughing at the joke was so OOC…especially for Mercedes and Tina. Santana can be crass, Britt (bless her heart) laughs at a lot of things and then there’s Sugar with her “Aspergers” but Mertina tend to be sensitive about things.

i feel like Santana can be crass, but that was TOO far even for her. She went to bat for Blaine as well as Kurt when they were being physically threatened and has been since last season. so this didn’t make sense at all. a man beating a woman and she makes a joke? nah, that doesn’t fit. these writers just… they’re beyond lazy at this point and there are too many of them.

This would’ve made much more sense if it’d been the boys who’d cracked a joke like that and the girls decided to sing these songs (though missing the mark a bit with CBT) to teach them a lesson.  How do you go from “Power of Madonna” to being that oblivious two seasons later…when there’s supposed to be growth?  And the fact a woman wrote that storyline for them (even if she’s a new writer), just no.  You’ve had two seasons of established characterizations - why are you breaking them just to fit such a very erratic storyline?  The boys should NOT have been left out of the loop for that; and once again, the responsibility of to end oppression is in the hands of those who are primarily oppressed by it and not those who are primarily the oppressors.  Thanks a lot, Glee.

cijithegeek:

yeah, so i was at the park a few weeks ago for one of my cousin’s kids birthday, and one of my cousin’s little girl (age 7) ran over to us crying, “This boy in the sandbox keeps pulling my hair! And he’s pushing me and being really mean!” and her mother and said, “It’s ok, he probably just likes you!”  and i shouted, “No… it means he’s an asshole.” everyone gasped and the child’s eyes got big as saucers. then she ran back to the boy, pointed at him and shouted, “You are an asshole!” and all the kids gasped and laughed and the little boy started crying. she skipped over to the swings.

and of course now that’s her new favorite word and her mom hates me.

Can I put this story on a T-shirt and shoved it into every asshole parent that inadvertently perpetuates rape culture to their child? Kthx!

thegoddamazon:

mirandaadria:

thegoddamazon:

mirandaadria:

ahandsomeshark:

mirandaadria:

nom-chompsky:

thegreatpumpkin:

This is what happens when you reward shitheads for their shithead behavior.

all the arrogance of kanye with jack shit to back it up.

Once again… not real. This isn’t how Tweets actually look on Twitter. I hate Chris Brown’s putrid guts, but whoever made this fake tweet is a dirty rotten liar. (If I’m wrong, prove me wrong, but I even followed Chris Brown on Twitter just now to see if the layout changed to how the above screenshot appears… no dice).

are you sure?

Cause it seems legit

Screenshot of Chris Brown’s page and how Tweets appear. I’m not going to be convinced by a random article written by some random person that is using the exact same image.

You’re using the old Twitter layout, I think. The new Twitter layout makes the Tweets appear like the original image when you click “Details”.

Screenshot, please?

This is what the new Twitter looks like.

iamwhoiamandidontgiveadamn:

Wow.  A lot of fail here.  Firstly, you will never further a female’s cause by using misogynist slurs against another girl.

Secondly, Belle entered into an abusive relationship and instead of seeing it for what it was, she stayed on the belief that if she was patient enough with The Beast he would become a good person.  A lot of people get into these kinds of relationships only to find after a long time and a lot of emotional investment (and maybe a kid…) that The Beast will always be a beast no matter how well they can pretend at being royalty. 

About as good of a role model as Bella in this vein…