June 2013
1. do you identify as a woman
2. congratulations you’re a real woman
YOU ARE NOT OBLIGATED TO CONTINUE DATING THE PERSON THAT YOU ARE DATING
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A “BAD REASON” TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE
DATING IS A TRIAL PERIOD
IT IS A TASTE TESTER
IT IS NOT MARRIAGE. YOU ARE FREE TO LEAVE A RELATIONSHIP AT ANY TIME WHETHER IT BE BECAUSE YOU WERE CHEATED ON OR EVEN BECAUSE YOU JUST DON’T CLICK ANYMORE
IF SOMEONE BREAKS UP WITH YOU DO!! NOT!! HARASS THEM AND SEND PEOPLE TO TALK TO THEM!!
RESPECT THEIR RIGHT TO NOT DATE YOU!
can we just take a moment to imagine little cute six-year-old hermione reading matilda
and peering into this book about a smart, bookish girl who could move things with her mind
and then can you imagine her concentrating very hard on the books on the bookshelf and slowly, slowly, getting them to move
I love Kickstarter. I think that’s clear to people who know me by now? I love it. There’s a dude named Brad Muir and he works at Double Fine and I love the games they make, so much. But before Kickstarter, every time a Double Fine game came out I was a little worried it would be their last, and I’d have to worry that if people didn’t buy it, who knows what would happen to that studio. Then they found KIckstarter and now they make games and people like me can front load the development cost for them and it is the absolute best arrangement for creative people who want a tool in the exhausting struggle of art + commerce. A friend of mine is taking a month off her job to write a children’s book because of this platform. It’s GREAT. I love it.
The outcome of this is that I spend a lot of time just browsing Kickstarter looking for something cool to either back or crow about online. I don’t really back much - I don’t have a ton of capitol to toss around, and I’m sure the fact that I have a lot of ideas and no money factors into my love of a platform that gives money to people with ideas - but I like to check it out. So tonight, I found THIS fucking thing.
This is a nightmare.
Watching the video, reading the description, it sounds fairly innocent but a little eye-roll inducing. It’s another book where some nerd, desperate to be liked by women (this is not an insult, we are ALL desperate to be liked by someone we want to have sex with) thinks he’s figured out some cheat code or check-list like routine they can run in a bar to make women sleep with them, as if women aren’t people but a series of subroutines or an obstacle course that they can optimize to get their dick wet as fast as possible. And he’s written that advice down! And he’s selling it! To you! You could learn his cheat codes. This is nothing new for the internet. In fact, a large swath of this book was published already on Reddit. What’s new is that he’s crowdfunding it.And sure, you might think this is sad or dumb or that this guy is just another lonely dude talking to other lonely dudes who’ll head out into the night with their fedoras to failure, right? Not a big deal? Oops, turns out we’re wrong, because here are some excerpts from what he’s already put on Reddit -
”5) Get CLOSE to her, damn it!To quote Rob Judge, “Personal space is for pussies.” I already told you that the most successful seducers are those who can’t keep their hands off of women. Well you’re not gonna be able to do that if you aren’t in close! ”
“All the greatest seducers in history could not keep their hands off of women. They aggressively escalated physically with every woman they were flirting with. They began touching them immediately, kept great body language and eye contact, and were shameless in their physicality. Even when a girl rejects your advances, she KNOWS that you desire her. That’s hot. It arouses her physically and psychologically.”
“Decide that you’re going to sit in a position where you can rub her leg and back. Physically pick her up and sit her on your lap. Don’t ask for permission. Be dominant. Force her to rebuff your advances.”
“Sex
Pull out your cock and put her hand on it. Remember, she is letting you do this because you have established yourself as a LEADER. Don’t ask for permission, GRAB HER HAND, and put it right on your dick.”
- Source
SO. Now I am no longer rolling my eyes.
This guy is no longer just being weird and creepy on the internet. Now he’s writing a book about how to sexually assault women, and he is using something I believe in (Kickstarter) to ask YOU for money to do it. I am offended as someone who believes in the platform, and more importantly I am offended as someone who believes women shouldn’t be treated this way, and that people who say otherwise CERTAINLY should not profit off saying they should.
This isn’t harmless. People come to these boards because they are scared of being humiliated, and they are saying to the world, “Tell me what to do, because I don’t know what to do.” And this guy has chosen to tell them, “You should be a rapist.”
There’s largely nothing we can do about people saying this shit on a place like Reddit - Reddit’s a mess for another time - but let’s get it off of Kickstarter. The project is funded in 10 hours - and unfortunately a lot of those are sleeping hours - but PLEASE report it to Kickstarter, please tweet @Kickstarter asking them to take it down, and PLEASE do not let something cool be used for the UGLIEST thing imaginable.
The Kickstarter - Report Button is on the bottom of the page
Please Tweet at @Kickstarter
Casey
I saw it at 12:01 am Friday and wasn’t going to say anything, but then tumblr liked it and it got good reviews and I’m uncertain we watched the same film.
- There were some very cliched pithy moments and a lot of explosions that someone handed to a two year old and said “make a collage” - this passes for plot logistics.
- The technology - I’m sorry what? You did how now?
- Lois Lane was a frigging case study in how to write a “sassy” female character and then make her utterly useless, fall through the air as many times as possible, and lose all personality partway through. She could not even put a key in a hole without a doctor’s help.
- The one female soldier’s only line was “he’s hot.” The one female who manages to be in a corporate office building then gets trapped in a cement structure to be rescued by male colleagues.
- Oh look a stereotyped Jewish guy we assume is a scientist. Were you even trying? Is that the same guy from Captain America?
- Oh look
New YorkMetropolis is being completely destroyed in a way that is a lot like Avengers except less interesting. Funny how Clark Kent can destroy an entire city plus Smallville and still have a moral crisis over breaking a guy’s neck…but does it anyway. They kind of missed the point of Superman’s personality.- It was too big. They tried to cram five plot lines and an hour of climaxes into one film, and I got bored and nauseous, my adrenals overloaded, and I almost walked out.
- There were some well-executed derivative gimmicks, and a lot of “ooh shiny”. I would love to work with their visual effects team. If that’s what passes for a “good” movie…go fuck yourself.
I really LOVED Man of Steel an absolute TON, and I’m going to write a really thorough review of why, but I’m reblogging this person’s commentary (and bolding some for emphasis) because some of it is so true that it hurts. The “he’s hot” line that girl had nearly fucking RUINED the ending for me. UGHHH
